0247 GMT December 11, 2017
For many teachers, bad behavior in the classroom does not stem from the pupils themselves but the parents, according to Dr. Amanda Gummer, a research psychologist specializing in child development, wrote the Independent.
“Wild, unruly children are increasingly likely to be the progeny of so-called ‘helicopter’ parents,” said Gummer writing for the Daily Mail, “those who give intensive, one-on-one attention to their child and pander to their every whim, fueling a ‘little emperor’ syndrome.”
From her experiences of working with primary school teachers, she said, the attitude and behavior of middle class parents in particular was far more shocking than that of their children.
“They are ruthlessly ambitious for their child’s future — failing to realize how badly their mollycoddling is preparing them for the compromises of real life,” she said.
“While we’ve long known this hovering parenting style can create children unable to make decisions or exhibit independence, what’s less often discussed is how aggressive and difficult the children of helicopter parents — often middle-class, professional and, to their minds, devoted to their darlings — can be at school.
“These children struggle in the classroom because they cannot cope with not being number one,” she added. “So they play up to try to get the attention they have been raised to believe ought to be all theirs”.
Teachers were being ‘frustrated to tears’ as a result of these attitudes, she said.
Recent Department for Education figures revealed as many as 35 children a day were being permanently excluded from school for bad behavior in England alone.
Just under a fifth of those expelled were at primary school, including some children as young as four — a figure that has more than doubled over the past four years.
Gummer suggested the perceived increase in expulsions can be linked to the combination of poor behavior and lack of personal skills as a result of bad parenting.
“Imagine: little ones so helpless they need assistance to go to the loo and put on their shoes, yet who are utterly unafraid to biff their teacher on the nose,” she wrote.
“Too many of these children have never heard the word ‘no’ levelled at them at home.”
Previous studies have suggested parents who exert too much control over their children could be causing them psychological damage later on in life.
A 2015 study by University College London tracking more than 5,000 people since birth, found people whose parents had intruded on their privacy in some way, or encouraged dependence were much more likely to be unhappy in their teens, 30s, 40s and later on in life.
“Children need rules, boundaries and opportunities to feel the cold, go hungry and fall down and hurt themselves, so they can learn from their mistakes,” concluded Gummer.
“If they are deprived of those basic life experiences at home, it makes educating them a far greater challenge for their teachers than it ever need be."